Episode 11

How Can I Release My Fears?

Published on: 7th June, 2022

In Jackie’s interview with Lynda Sunshine West, you’ll learn how running away as a five-year-old (to get away from an abusive father) and being gone for a week led to the belief that nobody loved her, which shaped her into a people pleaser who was ruled by fear, and how she overcame it.

Inside the Episode: 

*Find out what Lynda says was “the greatest gift I've ever given to myself.”

*Lynda believes that no matter our age, we can change our belief systems, even if they are “locked in tight.” Find out how she changed hers.

*Learn Lynda’s Powerful Forgiveness Exercise!

*Find out how to tell the difference between fear that’s stopping you and your intuition that’s warning you.

*Find out why Lynda calls the popular acronym for fear (False Evidence Appearing Real) stupid, and the powerfully effective acronym she replaced it with.

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Guest Bio and Cool Quotes in the Episode:

As the Founder and CEO of Action Takers Publishing, Lynda Sunshine West’s mission is to empower 5 million women and men to share their stories with the world to make a greater impact on the planet. She is affectionately known as The Queen of Collaboration. Lynda Sunshine is a Book Publisher, Speaker, Multiple Times International #1 Best-Selling Author, Executive Film Producer, and a Red Carpet Interviewer.

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Quotes in the Episode from Lynda:

“You have a story to tell and when you start telling your story, it does several things. One is it helps you to heal. And the other thing is you can help others heal also through your story.”

“Even though I was no longer with the abuser, the abuse was still in my head and now I became the abuser of myself.”

“When you leave an abusive environment, you can't go back to the same environment because it’s going to help pull you back in. So find those people in your life who do believe in you, who do want to see you succeed and surround yourself with those people.”

“When I know the cause, I can move through it.”

“Once we have awareness, we can make a decision. And the decision is to stay the same or to change. Either way, we're making a decision. I have awareness. If I decide to stay the same, I have made that decision.”

“The majority of my fears were based on the fear of judgment. That fear is the biggest fear.”

“When we find our purpose, it's our job and duty to spend the rest of our lives living on purpose instead of living on accident.”

“See the opportunity, then seize the opportunity.”

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Recommendations in the Episode:

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The First Seven Years of Our Lives Could Be Our Most Important

Guide to Gaslighting

Financial abuse is found in 98% of all cases of abuse

You Are the Average of the Five People You Spend the Most Time With 

Taking 100% responsibility: E+R=O (Event + Response = the Outcome)

Books

The Year of Fears by Lynda Sunshine West 

Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield

YouTube Vids

What is a Covert Narcissist? (Dr. Ramani)

Fear vs. Excitement (Simon Sinek)


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With a unique background in music, communication and the arts, Seattle, Nashville and London based transformational keynote speaker/singer/songwriter/podcaster and author Jackie Graybill inspires and transforms her audiences.

Jackie has taught piano for the past 22 years, has lit up the stage in eight plays and musicals and placed in the Top 10 as Miss Puget Sound 2006 at Miss America’s Miss Washington Pageant. She has released two albums and multiple singles to Spotify success (as Jackie Gray). She is also a Toastmasters International Speech Contest Winner for District 9 in 2021.

Jackie’s colorful life came crashing down into darkness when she found herself in an abusive marriage. Now free, and an overcomer who holds a Masters in Understanding Domestic and Sexual Violence, Jackie combines her original music with a message of hope by helping others recognize, escape and heal from abusive relationships.

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