Episode 5

The Foundation of All Abuse: Coercive Control

Published on: 25th March, 2022

What is Coercive Control, how is it foundationally at the heart of all abuse and why is it vital to understanding abuse? If there’s one episode you listen to in order to understand abuse, make it this one! It features a short story I wrote called The Fish and The Hook as well as a healing EFT Tapping session and a Journaling Challenge.

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Listen to the short story, The Fish and The Hook, written and read by your host, Jackie: 2:23-9:47


EFT Tapping Meditation time stamps: 40:19-55:10


Learn more about the Cycle of Abuse


Learn more about the Dynamics of Abuse


Learn more about Gaslighting


TV show mentioned in the episode:

Killing Eve


Books mentioned in the episode:

Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and other Toxic People by Jackson MacKenzie


Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath's Guide to Evading Relationships That Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power by Christiane Northrup, MD


Why Does He Do That: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft


The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond by Patricia Evans


Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life by Evan Stark


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Abuse Isn't What You Think
Recognize. Escape. Heal.
Are you wondering if your toxic or dysfunctional relationship might be more, might be... Abusive? You're in the right place to find out!

Go on a journey from trauma to triumph with your host, Jackie Graybill. She escaped an abusive marriage and went on to earn her Masters in Understanding Domestic and Sexual Violence. Jackie takes all of her experiences and storytelling skills to bring you compelling, eye-opening and healing content with the guests she interviews and also in her solo episodes.

Have you ever been curious about EFT Tapping? Some episodes feature this healing modality. It's powerful, free and easy to do. You don't need any equipment other than your fingers and a quiet space.

Join this warm community and expand your education about abuse and abusers (often the people we love and care about), and why they strategically control and abuse us.

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JACKIE GRAYBILL

With a unique background in music, communication and the arts, Seattle, Nashville and London based transformational keynote speaker/singer/songwriter/podcaster and author Jackie Graybill inspires and transforms her audiences.

Jackie has taught piano for the past 22 years, has lit up the stage in eight plays and musicals and placed in the Top 10 as Miss Puget Sound 2006 at Miss America’s Miss Washington Pageant. She has released two albums and multiple singles to Spotify success (as Jackie Gray). She is also a Toastmasters International Speech Contest Winner for District 9 in 2021.

Jackie’s colorful life came crashing down into darkness when she found herself in an abusive marriage. Now free, and an overcomer who holds a Masters in Understanding Domestic and Sexual Violence, Jackie combines her original music with a message of hope by helping others recognize, escape and heal from abusive relationships.

For more information, email booking.jackiespeaks@gmail.com or visit jackiegraybillspeaks.com.